Where Do You Go From Here?

So now what?  You are a survivor and you think the nightmare is over.  That is not the case.  It takes a long long time to really sever all ties with the abuser.  But you are out so everything should be better ~right?  On some level it is very liberating to finally have left and be out of direct range of direct verbal or physical assault.  You feel empowered and know that this is where life begins.
Unfortunately, the abuser  needs your suffering in the same way that you need air to breath.  He/she thrives on your negative emotions and is an emotional vampire.  So, just because you are out does not mean that it is over.  While you are just enjoying the simple air you breath, the sun on your face and the peace of the day he/ she is  figuring it out-laying the trap for you in a covert way.  He/ she is not done with you yet.
The line has been drawn in the sand and the battle to survive is just beginning.   The abuser will try to reel you in by proclamation to change, cutting you off financially or preying on the emotions of those you love, such as your family, friends and children.  Somehow, the abuser is going to convince the world that he/she is the victim and during the time you need the most support many will not know or understand what you have experienced and actually empathize with the abuser.  This is the time to keep doing your job.  Be a survivor.